Assertiveness is a style of communication that is firm but respectful. It allows you to set boundaries while being mindful of others’ feelings. Being assertive can help you express your thoughts without being aggressive, passive, or timid. Although many mistake assertiveness for aggression, it’s nothing like the latter. 

Aggressive communication is rude or offensive. It shames or bullies the listener into compliance. Just as bad, aggressive communicators rarely listen to others. If you find yourself to be an aggressive communicator, be aware that this communication style may damage trust and result in people resenting, avoiding, and even opposing you. Moreover, this communication style weakens relationships and causes unnecessary conflict. 

Passive communicators are timid, rather than forward. They often accommodate others’ desires at the expense of their own needs and feelings. If you are a passive communicator, the tendency to avoid conflict and not express differing opinions may suggest that your feelings and opinions are not as valuable as others. This can lead to internal feelings of stress, resentment, anger, and low confidence.

Passive-aggressive communicators include sarcasm and taunts in their communication style. Most damaging for passive-aggressive communicators, they often complain about people behind their backs. If you find yourself in this lot, the inability to handle confrontations and be direct could result in a negative attitude and actions thus making it difficult for your goals and needs to be met.